Motivate Teens | How To Motivate Teenagers

Are your teens motivated?

What excuses do your teenagers use?

How can you motivate teens?

If you don’t know how to motivate teens then getting them to do anything can be frustrating and cause conflict and because you get frustrated and face confrontation with your teens it means you start to judge your parenting ability and parenting teenagers becomes a chore.

” You never get a second chance To make a first impression.” — By Mrs. Williams

To motivate teens you must discover what it is they are interested in and motivate yourself to do what you need to do, to appreciate what your teens reality is, right now. Familiarise yourself with their activities, interests and what they get excited about and by familiarising yourself with these things you will be able to see, hear and feel what it is that they are motivated by.

Discover how to motivate teens by gaining the knowledge and giving them time to share what they are doing at school, at work or even at home and because you gain the knowledge you can build rapport and connect with them on a whole new level. Your teenagers are developing at such a rapid rate and probably have no clue themselves as to where they are, right now.

The more knowledge you have about what is going on for your teenagers and what will motivate teens, the more equipped you are to help them move in the direction of their dreams in a safe environment while allowing them room to grow. Growing yourself while parenting teenagers means you will also move yourself in the direction you want to go with your teenagers.

Having an honest open relationship will motivate teens to come to you and talk about things that years ago were well hidden. It means they will feel like they are in a non judgemental, confidential space where they have the freedom to say what is on their mind and so will you as a parent.

Here are some suggestions on how to motivate teens to get them to reach their full potential, now.

Positive Attitude!

If you have a positive attitude then this will motivate teens to be the best they can be, now and because you motivate teens to be the best they can be now it means your teenagers will strive to reach their full potential and makes for better communication and connection between you and your teenager.

Certainty!

If you stay certain of yourself then you as the role model and parent will be giving your teens the security that they are looking for right now. Through the teenage phase of growth teens need to have some certainty in their life and because you can only be certain of yourself it means staying certain of who you are and what you believe in which will help them feel safe and motivate teens to take the next step, now.

Appreciation!

If you show appreciation to your teens for what they do for you and for themselves then you will notice this will help motivate teens to be the best they can be, reach their full potential and make you proud and because they are being the best they can be, reaching their full potential and making you feel proud it means you don’t have to motivate teens any more.

Motivate teens by having the courage, commitment and determination to be the best parent you can be to your teenagers. Becoming who you need to be means learning and discovering what’s missing. The knowledge that you learn now will move you forward to do the things you need to do, to have what you want to have as a parent. Knowing all well that someday you will no longer have to motivate teens because they will follow in your footsteps and become who they need to be to motivate themselves.

Learning how to motivate teens now will help you discover more things about yourself as a parent and your teenagers and allow you the room to grow within yourself to motivate teens and strengthen your relationships. 

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Shirley Kerkow

Accredited by International Coach Federation, Inspirational Success Coach/Parent Coach, Advanced Practitioner of Life Coaching, Certified NLP Practitioner, Accredited Extended DISC Trainer/consultant. www.inspirationalsuccesscoach.com

What Do Your Teenagers Need?

Do your teenagers feel respected?

Why do teenagers need to be listened to?

Do you understand what your teenagers need?

If you understand your teenagers need to be heard, appreciated and respected then you can trust yourself to listen, acknowledge and understand your teenagers now, and because you listen, acknowledge and understand what your teenagers need it means you are on the road to helping your teenagers fulfill them.

 “It’s hard to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you just like everyone else. Why let yourself be put on a copy machine? It’s like handing out the answers to a test! The answers to life… Every morning is a blank sheet of paper to write on. Be yourself and leave YOUR OWN mark in this world!” ~ Shannon N., Age 15 — Alabama

If you discover what your teenagers need then you can build rapport, communicate and connect with them, as well as build a trusting relationship where they will feel respected, heard and valued and because they feel respected, heard and valued it means you will feel those things as well.

What do you see, hear and feel when you look at your teenagers. Parents can see a lot of themselves in their teenagers and most parents want to save their teenager and protect them before their teenagers have had a chance to learn their lesson.

Teenagers need to see how much you value them, hear you talking about how proud you are of them and feel adequate and enough. Reading below to find out what teenagers need the most.

Independence!

Teenagers need to become independent and learn how to plan, provide and prioritize in their life. Just like parenting a teenager when they have so much going on, teenagers need to learn to listen to their own intuition and then trust and be guided by it. In a safe environment teenagers need to be reassured of their greatness, their individuality and their strengths.

Acceptance!

Teenagers need to be accepted for who they are right now and not expected to know how to make adult decisions and choices during this phase of their life. Part of learning and growing and making decisions in a safe environment, allows your teenagers to take risks in a more trusting and controlled way.

Unconditional Love!

Parenting teenagers means discovering what your teenagers need and making sure you continue to give them the unconditional love, support and appreciation that they may not necessarily ask for. Teenagers need a place to express how they feel, what they need and want in a space where they are not judged. This place should be their home where they are surrounded, usually by the most forgiving people.

Opportunities!

Teenagers need to know that they can dream big and they can follow their dreams. Every opportunity that knocks on your teenagers door is a step towards what they want. The possibilities are endless. Most parents hold their teenagers back out of fear. If you trusted yourself and your parenting abilities it would mean you could trust your teenagers, more.

Structure & Certainty!

Teenagers need certainty, structure and boundaries so they feel safe along with the flexibility that most parents have to bend the rules sometimes. Teenagers need to break away and strive to become more. They push past the boundaries sometimes to see what its like to learn and grow from it.

Teenagers need to discover who they are becoming as a person so that they can do the things they want to do in order to have what they want to have and fulfill their dreams. Knowing what your teenagers needs were helps you to understand what your own teenagers need now to develop and take responsibility for themselves and their actions.

What if you could teach your teenagers how to fulfill their needs and help them become who they need to be, to do what they want to do by gaining the knowledge, the understanding and the certainty within yourself as their parent to be the best you can be to love, support and help your teenagers reach their full potential now.

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Shirley Kerkow

Accredited by International Coach Federation, Inspirational Success Coach/Parent Coach, Advanced Practitioner of Life Coaching, Certified NLP Practitioner, Accredited Extended DISC Trainer/consultant. www.inspirationalsuccesscoach.com

Connecting With Your Teens!

Is connecting with your teens working?

Are you confused?

Are you connecting with your teens now?

Is this statement true? Connecting with your teens is different then connecting with your toddlers. I don’t believe so. Connecting with your teens is almost a match to connecting with your toddlers only on a larger scale. Because your teenagers have learnt more, it means their boundaries are bigger, their rules are different and parents have much higher expectations for their teens. They still need to be loved, feel like they belong and know they are good enough.

“There is a fountain of youth: It is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring in your life and the lives of people you love.” ~ Sophia Loren

Next year my youngest daughter will start school while my oldest boy finished school last year. No more toddlers under my feet, to smile at a sad joke, to laugh at nothing and to listen when I sing. Do I treat them differently? No, I still give them both the same amount of love, let them both know they are good enough and that they belong.

Connecting with your teens can be more challenging than connecting with your toddlers but knowing that they are developing at a rapid pace means you can adjust what you say, when you say things and how you listen to appreciate where they are both at. If you know the secrets on how to connect with your toddlers then you will know the secrets for connecting with your teens.

If you are connecting with your teens it means that you understand that they are growing and changing and they themselves probably feel lost and out of control. Adding a parent that is feeling lost and out of control makes the whole situation more stressful and more frustrating.

Using these tips for connecting with your teens will help you gain certainty, communicate and even connect with your teens even more, right now.

Share something they value!

Connecting with your teens means sharing something with them that they value for eg. A movie of their choice, game of their choice or sport of their choice. If you don’t know what they value then all you have to do is listen to what they get excited about while talking. Their change in tonality when they are talking can give away even the slightest change in their emotional state.

Shift your thinking!

Connecting with your teens means thinking outside the square and following your intuition, taking a breath before you speak and changing your perception of an event, conversation or action that your teens have made that may cause you to feel angry, disappointed or even frustrated.

Be honest!

Always be honest with your teens. Connecting with your teens is recognising when you have made a mistake and sharing it with them. This shows your teenager that no one is perfect and you can make mistakes too. It means you can openly share that you have recognised and learnt from your mistake. Connecting with your teens will allow them to see you are normal, that you don’t know everything even though you think you do, and explaining the lesson that you learnt from your mistake.

Go out of your way!

It’s nice to feel special and unique and your teens will value this. Connecting with your teens by taking them to a coffee shop and giving them one on one time. Connecting with your teens means showing them that you value them and what they have to share. You want them to understand and appreciate, easily and effortlessly the small things can mean so much.

Show your interested!

Connecting with your teens on a whole new level means you are showing interest in them. Showing them you haven’t forgotten them because they are growing up and you still value them and their opinion on things. It means sometimes putting them first and connecting with your teens to let them know they belong and are good enough for you to take the time to connect with them.

If you listen to your teenagers then connecting with your teens will become easy and effortless, now.

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Shirley Kerkow

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Effectively Communicating With Teenagers!

How is communicating with teenagers affecting you?

Do your teenagers talk more with their friends?

Is communicating with teenagers frustrating you?

If you start effectively communicating with teenagers then you will notice how you communicate, is the response you get. To change the response, you first need to change how you are communicating with teenagers. Because you change how you are communicating with teenagers it means the responses you get, will change.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” ~ Anthony Robbins

When you are your teenagers greatest influence as their parent, good communication is a must. If your communicating with teenagers in a way that is serving and supporting your relationship with them, then you will build a more open and respected connection with your teenagers.

If you are effectively communicating with teenagers then you will experience less conflict and more understanding. Because you experience less conflict and more understanding it means many of the communication challenges that you and your teenager face will be resolved, easily and effortlessly, now.

Communicating with teenagers takes patience, persistence and poise, more importantly a willingness to admit when you have made a mistake and honestly say I apologise. If communicating with teenagers was easy what could you do right now to improve your relationships with your teenagers?

Stepping outside of your comfort zone means taking a chance to notice what is holding you back from communicating with teenagers even more effectively right now. You can utilize better techniques for communicating with teenagers if you learn them, now.

Communicating with teenagers is a way of sharing ideas, connecting with your teenagers and supporting them through challenging times. If you help them understand what life is about then communicating with teenagers can become more enjoyable and exciting.

Communicating with teenagers helps them notice the opportunities and possibilities to reach their full potential in life. It is a way of communicating with teenagers that will bring out the best in them, at work, at school and at home.

Effectively communicating with teenagers includes…

Listen with your heart!

Communicating with teenagers is a way of hearing what they have to say and asking questions for them to relate to what they are saying. As parents we may try to have all the answers. If we could stay curious for a little longer and hold the space, eventually the teenagers will uncover their own answers.

Be patient!

If you are rushing around busy all the time and don’t have time to be communicating with teenagers then your teenagers will find others to confide in. This means you can start to feel shut out and communicating with teenagers becomes more challenging. Make the time and open a space for communicating with teenagers, now.

Role Model!

If you want your teenagers to speak, listen or act in a certain way then you need to speak, listen and act the way that you want your teenagers to. Communicating with teenagers in a way the they can relate to will help them right now and in their future to reach their full potential. Make sure you are communicating with teenagers with clarity. This means making sure your what you are saying they can understand easily.

Don’t Assume!

Communicating with teenagers effectively means having an open mind when your teenagers want to talk with you. Ask a question or get help to solve a problem that they would like support with. Keeping your judgement out of the conversation and allowing your teenager to communicate in a non judgemental space that will encourage them to open up.

Build rapport!

If you build rapport then communicating with teenagers becomes so much easier. Your teenagers will feel more connected to you and trust you to listen to what they have to say. It means your teenagers will feel comfortable and can communicate with you easily and effortlessly, now.

Are you communicating with teenagers the best way you can, right now?

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Shirley Kerkow

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Motivating Your Teenager 2012

Is your teenager procrastinating?

Can your teenager motivate themselves easily?

Is the frustration of motivating your teenager keeping you awake?

If you discover new techniques for motivating your teenager then you will feel more empowered to help guide them and motivate them with certainty as a parent. Teenagers who lack energy, interest and self motivation struggle to even understand how being motivated can help them reach their full potential, right now!

“I am every emotion times ten, I conform yet I’m rebellious, always obeying but somehow still an outlaw, always talking but never heard, I am a teenager.” ~ Author Unknown

I remember back when I was a teenager, feeling lost, shut out and lonely. I lost motivation through early high school years, not because I didn’t want to do the work. It was because I didn’t feel I belonged there. It was never about the academic side of things for me it was more about trying to feel like I fitted in and belonged. I tried to explain to my mum how I felt but she didn’t understand. Everything I said I wanted to do to improve my experience at school, in her eyes was me just being a typical teenager.

Stepping back into those shoes now, as a parent of 5 amazing children of my own, I now understand where my mother was coming from. While motivating your teenager think back to when you were there. This will give you some valuable insights to help with motivating your teenager, now. What did you see? What did you hear? How did you feel? What did you think about the most?

Motivating your teenager in 2012 can be challenging as there are many more external distractions that can take your teenagers attention which means motivating your teenager, today can be challenging. Mobile phones, facebook and even electronic games.

The key here is to monitor the time and the timing of using these external distractions as a motivating reward for doing the things that they need to do, to have what they want to have. Motivating your teenager, can sometimes take all your effort as a parent. Being the best you can be and learning the secrets to motivating your teenager means being curious about how they are motivated and what they try to avoid and fear the most.

Here are 7 secrets to motivating your teenagers…

Provide the right environment!

Providing the right environment for motivating your teenager will help boost their motivation and energy. Surrounding your teenagers with a safe and healthy environment will help boost their motivation and it means motivating your teenager becomes a lot easier.

Help them fulfill their needs!

Rest assured, motivating your teenager also includes helping them fulfill their needs, socially and emotionally. Your teenagers are growing up and going through many changes which means they have a lot going on and can get quite confused and de-motivated by expectations of parents wanting them to be grown ups.

Teenagers don’t think like adults!

While motivating your teenager you need to remember that doing the mundane ordinary tasks that we as parents take for granted is the last thing on your teenagers mind, right now. They don’t think like adults think and if they did you wouldn’t have to be finding ways for motivating your teenager, now.

Praise your teenagers!

Always point out what your teenagers are doing right. Motivating your teenager starts with creating happy anchors around what they do, right. Every time your teenager motivates themselves to do something, you need to recognise this and reward them. Rewarding them with something you know motivates them will be motivating your teenager, even more.

Respect their map!

Another way for motivating your teenager is to respect them and their opinion. Value what they say and they will respect and value what you say. What they see, hear and feel is filtering through their mind. Motivating your teenager by respecting their map will encourage them to be the best they can be, now.

Be Flexible!

If you make sure your teenagers are aware of the boundaries and rules you set for them then you can be flexible when they show self motivation. Motivating your teenager to become more responsible for their decisions, choices and actions now will make sure that your teenager will always know how to motivate themselves.

Give feedback!

Motivating your teenager by giving them positive feedback when they motivate themselves and make good decisions. This means you are reinforcing that in reality there is no failure, only feedback. This will help them understand what motivating themselves is all about. Remove the word failure and replace it with feedback.

Right now you are guiding, helping and supporting your teenagers to live a happy, healthy motivated life. Motivating your teenager includes being their friend, mentor and their parent, now!

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Parenting Teens Through Challenging Times!

Do your teenagers over step your boundaries?

Is parenting teens through challenging times frustrating you?

Do you wonder where you went wrong?

If you are parenting teens through challenging times then you will know what I am talking about here. Parenting teens through challenging times is not the easiest task you will ever set for yourself to do in your life nor getting it right. There is no book about parenting teens through challenging times and rest assured it wouldn’t work for everyone, anyway.

“Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do.” ~ Dr. Benjamin Spock

Parenting teens through challenging times comes from within. You are the only one who can follow your intuition to discover the answers for yourself as a parent on how you can guide and support your teenagers to be the best they can be and reach their full potential. If you are parenting teens through challenging times, then building trust and self belief in your teenagers will help them overcome their challenges and grow within.

Parenting teens through challenging times can make you feel shut out, alone and not have a clue as to what to do next as a parent. I know I did when my eldest boy was going through his final year of school. I thought everything was going great, until I got a call from the school asking if my son was actually at school that day, because he hadn’t been marked off the role.

Just when I thought life couldn’t get any better, in one fowl swoop things changed. I felt lost, insecure and started questioning my parenting abilities. Little did I know that he hadn’t been at school for the last few days and was going through challenging times nor did I know how to handle it or what to do next.

What did I do?

One thing I didn’t do was hide from my parenting responsibilities. I stepped up instead of away and took control of myself and my emotions then parenting teens through challenging times seem to become easier. I searched for answers about parenting teens through challenging times. By growing bigger than the challenge and becoming who I needed to be, I managed myself and because I managed myself it meant I could help my son to discover what was really going on within himself.

Instead of punishing him, I took him under my wing for a few days and became curious about what his challenges were. I gave him space to talk and listened. Although I didn’t know his answers, by listening to him , sharing some insights and reflecting back to him what he was saying, he found his own answers about how to grow bigger than his challenges and create a new behaviour pattern to manage himself.

Parenting teens through challenging times means supporting, loving and nurturing them in a safe environment, built with lots of trust and respect for your teens and what they have to share. Lets face it, even when parenting teens through challenging times, we as parents let some of our fears overwhelm us, but with the help of someone to listen and reflect back, our answers soon become clear.

Parenting teens through challenging times can test your patience, turn you grey and even stress you out but only if you let it. By taking control of yourself and your parenting abilities it means you will notice that parenting teens through challenging times with the right support, knowledge and help, you can do it.

While parenting teens through challenging times you need to remember once you have worked through the issue and made a plan you, as the parent, need to let go of what has happened and focus on what you want to happen.  

Imagine…how you will be able to support your teens…now, and in the future. When they grow and become who they need to be…to do the things they need to do…to have what they want to have. It means parenting teens through challenging times now so that they know they feel loved, feel validated and feel needed.

While parenting teens through challenging times you can be assured you are being the best you can be, now!

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5 Mistakes Parents Make When Communicating With Teenagers!

When communicating with teenagers do you listen first?

Do you ask questions rather then try to solve their problems?

Do you try and understand where they are coming from?

If you are communicating with teenagers in a way that they can relate to then they will value your opinion and because they value your opinion it means they will listen to what you are saying and it makes communicating with teenagers easy and effortless, now.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”    Anthony Robbins

Most parents like to think they are communicating with teenagers effectively and doing the best they can with what they know. Our teenagers are growing at a rapid rate and experiencing changes and communicating with teenagers can have its challenges that are sometimes unavoidable. While communicating with teenagers we need to remember that we have grown through this stage ourselves and now have the knowledge to make better choices.

If we could go back and do it all again then communicating with teenagers would be easier now. Parents communicating with teenagers need to understand it is not their job to be perfect and it is not their fault that sometimes they don’t get it right.

If we choose to do it better then we would gain more knowledge and grow within ourselves and because we grow within ourselves it means becoming the person we need to be, to do the things we need to do and it makes communicating with teenagers, effortless, now.

Communicating with teenagers is the most important part of parenting. If you grow within, communicating with teenagers becomes less of a struggle and a more of a rewarding and fulfilling experience. Your teenagers will learn how to communicate more effectively in life by watching you and experiencing your communication techniques.

Here are 5 mistakes parents make when communicating with teenagers.

Don’t Value Their Teenagers!

If you value your teenagers and their opinions then your teenagers will feel valued. Their self worth and self esteem goes up and because their self worth and their self esteem goes up, communicating with teenagers becomes more enjoyable.

Not Letting Go & Moving On!

If you keep reminding your teenagers of the things they have done wrong then all they will focus on is what they have done wrong and because they focus on what they have done wrong it means barriers are built while communicating with teenagers. As long as your teenagers understand the lesson from their experience then you need to let go and move on.

Answers For Everything!

If you pretend to know the answer to everything then communicating with teenagers can become a rather short conversation sometimes ending in conflict. If you don’t know the answer to the question your teenagers are asking it is better to admit it and ask your teenager to help them find the answer themselves. Being able to admit when you don’t know the answer will build more rapport with your teenagers, even more.

Not Having Enjoyment & Fun!

If you never have fun or enjoy your teenagers company then communicating with teenagers becomes a task and your teenagers don’t experience the enjoyment of having fun with their parents. This can be done in several ways join a sport with your teenager, watch a movie with your teenager or swim with your teenager. What ever the thing is for them teenagers love parents to enjoy something that they love to do.

Not Allowing Teenagers To Grow Up!

If communicating with teenagers is what you want to do then allowing your teenagers to grow up is a sure way of boosting your communication stream. Communicating with teenagers allows them to grow by learning the techniqes to communicate with people of all ages and in all walks of life.

Communicating with teenagers is a must for them to know that we as parents are their for them to help and support them however we can to get through this phase of their life. We were there once and know how challenging it can be.

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